No dogs in my bed

Dear Dog Lady,

I finally have the opportunity to share my life with a wonderful woman, Stephanie. She’s pretty, kind, smart and claims to like dogs. She just doesn’t want them in the bed -- or in the bedroom. Unfortunately, this means Ruffles – my excitable Afghan/poodle mix -- has to find somewhere else to sleep whenever Stephanie stays over. Because Ruffles and I have been sharing the covers for years before I met Stephanie, I find it hard to shut out the dog. Ruffles whines at the bedroom door. I don’t want to be the man in the middle. Help!

- Andy, Jupiter, Fla.

Andy, be a wise Alpha. Remember, your love for your dog is one of your most appealing qualities. You must be patient while pretty, kind, smart Stephanie gets more familiar with Ruffles. Andy is her top dog, not Ruffles. She’s not used to snuggling with an animal -- hmm, other than you, my pet. As she spends more time with Ruffles, she should become less ruffled when the dog is allowed to hang out for short periods in the bedroom while she is in residence. Make a nest for Ruffles -- close enough so the dog can feel a part of the crowd, far enough away so Ruffles doesn’t crowd Stephanie. Eventually, the three of you will settle into a new social hierarchy.

Posted by Dog Lady at March 4, 2003 12:00 PM