Cutting Ties

Dear Dog Lady,

I went through a divorce several months ago. We had three dogs together. I took my Westie when I left and continued to take the dog over to my ex’s daily to be with the other dogs while I work. I recently moved into a condo and I now find it necessary to make other arrangements for the dog because I find a companion pet is not practical for me in my new life. I can’t afford doggie day care and I am unable to spend much time with him. I would like any tips on how to accomplish this. Should I make a clean break or do it gradually?

Pat, Utica, NY

Dog Lady sends her sympathies on your recent divorce. Your life is changing and it's important to realize when you cannot keep a dog any longer -- best for you and the dog. Dog Lady advises you to make a clean break after you find suitable arrangements for your Westie. First, you might offer the dog to your former spouse. After all, your Westie didn’t get a divorce from his two playmates. If your ex nixes that idea, find a rescue group in your area. Westies are desirable dogs and they usually can be placed in a new home easily -- either through a rescue group or your local shelter.

After you find a good home for your pet, do not delay the inevitable. Your dog must sense your detachment and it's better to place it with new owners who can give love and care right away.

Posted by Dog Lady at July 17, 2007 12:29 PM