Facing the End

Dear Dog Lady,

My dog is almost 17 years old. She is having problems seeing and hearing. She used to weigh 85 lbs and now weighs around 36 lbs. She has problems with arthritis in her hips and is very unstable, I know she has a hard time getting up and down, and sometimes she falls over. She is also losing control of her bowels and goes a lot in the house. My husband thinks its time to put her to sleep. But when I look at her I just don't feel its time. He says she is suffering. Do you think we should put her down? Our vet says it’s our decision. Any help will be appreciated. I can't imagine coming home from work and not seeing her.

Ginger, St. Louis, MO

Ginger, anguished dog keepers who have made this gut-wrenching decision to euthanize a beloved pet describe how their animals send them spiritually deep signals when they are done. You will have to look for these in your darling. Your dog seems hobbled by end-of-life malaise, but it sounds as if you don’t want to face the end just yet.

Your husband has a realistic view. Your vet wisely tells you it’s your decision because it is. Likewise, Dog Lady can’t possibly counsel you on the timing in this matter. Pay attention to your dog. She has all the answers. And when she passes, take comfort knowing her spirit will still greet you when you walk through the door. Your dog will always live on in your loving memories of her.

Posted by Dog Lady at December 27, 2006 01:58 PM