Rover Resettlement

Dear Dog Lady,

I just moved to Connecticut from San Francisco and am very eager to find a place for me and my dog, Hattie, to feel at home off-leash. Around the Bay Area, we were so spoiled by all the dog parks. We had our favorite group where we went every morning. Hattie was in heaven with all her pals. I was too.

So far, I’m scoping out the possibilities, visiting various dog romper rooms -- parks, green spaces -- to find the ideal situation where Hattie and I can feel free and easy. Hattie, a six-year old Lab, is often snappish around dogs she doesn’t know. She’s also been quite unsettled during this dislocation. She nipped at one of the dogs on our street yesterday. I think a regular doggy playgroup, with opportunity for Hattie to ruff and tumble, will make her feel more anchored in the universe. Does this seem reasonable?

Sandy, Hartford, Conn

Sandy, your plan sounds dandy. Dog Lady also compliments you on how you’re deliberating about finding a new school -- er, doggy playgroup -- for Hattie. The research you’re doing is no different than that of a parent finding a suitable nursery for a small child who can’t make the decision for him or herself. You’re being a very responsible pet owner and thinking about what’s best -- in the human world -- for your dog.

Recently, Dog Lady attended a lecture on “Dog Park Etiquette” at the Animal Rescue League in Boston. I won’t trouble you with all the details, but a major theme emerged: Dog owners must be informed and vigilant. Duh. Sounds so basic, but this is where all good dog behavior begins -- with owners like you who are keenly aware of their animal’s needs, strengths, fears and frailties. By acknowledging that Hattie is snappish with dogs she doesn’t know, you are already one step ahead of your pet.

You’re right. Hattie was thrown off-kilter by the move. Dogs are nesting creatures. They like their hangouts familiar and simple. Your dog also senses your anxiety around the cross-country move. Both of you yearn for a new routine and you’re taking the first steps to find a comfort zone for you and your dog. Dog Lady knows you’ll find your place very soon.

Posted by Dog Lady at May 23, 2004 10:05 AM